How to handle comparison.

Monday, July 10, 2017

 Don't compare yourself to others,
that is when you start to lose confidence in yourself.
- Will Smith


The comparison game on social media is so toxic, and has been weighing heavily on my mind lately. I was sitting on the couch, scrolling through my Instagram feed (waisting time) and I automatically started wishing I had "this and that". Comparison truly is the thief of joy. Insecurities are developed because we compare our "behind-the-scenes" with everyone else's "highlight reel". 
A lot of the time when we start comparing ourselves with someone else, we don't realize how that person worked HARD to get where they are. It is so easy to look at people's highlights and think that their lives are perfect. I promise you this, everybody has trials, big or small. 

Here is the thing; just because someone has reached certain milestones before you did, doesn't mean you won't get there too. 
Your worth is not measured by likes, comments, notes or followers; but in your ability to love, support, encourage, take note and lead.
What should you do when social media gets under your skin?
DELETE DELETE AND DELETE!!!

Seriously, it's that simple. There's no need to follow someone that makes you feel bad about yourself. Nobody wants to be friends with someone that doesn't bring positive thoughts to the plate. Remove all that negativity from your feeds and fill it with inspirational, fun, motivating, whatever it is that you like fill it with that. 


xo

 

27 comments:

  1. I definitely needed this reminder. It is way too easy to get caught up in the comparison trap, to assume that all those perfect pictures someone is sharing means their life must be equally perfect. And I totally agree with deleting/unfollowing accounts that only ever leave you feeling down about yourself. I've had to do that a few times. I mean, I appreciate beautiful photos, and enjoy getting a peek into other people's lives, but I can't let it be at the expense of my self worth, because you're 100% right, it has nothing to do with likes, comments, followers, etc. And if I waste my time and energy thinking that it does, I'll be a really unhappy person.

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    1. I just adore you, thank you for sharing!! <3

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  2. So true! It's so important to remember that we control how we feel, not social media. It's not worth it if it's effecting our self-worth!

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  3. i've been telling people this too!! delete and unfollow! no point driving yourself crazy when you can control the situation. love you so much for sharing this. you're always so uplifting!!! xoxoxo

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  4. I love this! It is so difficult to get caught up in what someone else is doing and compare it to yourself. It's such a huge burden off when you surround yourself with positive people that lift you up, and who you can celebrate their wins as much as they celebrate yours.

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    1. Its so important tho!!! Happy people happy life :)

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  5. Just shared this to my Facebook. This is well written and powerful. Thanks Fat!

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  6. Yes! Comparison is such a trap, and though we know it, it's so easy to fall into! Thanks for the beautiful reminder :)

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  7. Thank you so much for posting this! It can be hard not to compare but this is such a great reminder!

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  8. Yeah comparison is the their of joy. Love your post.

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  9. thank you for this, well said.

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  10. Yes, yes, yes! So agreed! I feel like it's very hard in the blogging world to not compare, especially when we are all vying to do well and work with brands. Loved this reminder and I've really stepped back from being number focused and working more on what makes me happy!

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    1. Which in the end will make everything so worth it! <3

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  11. Yes! I love this! Thank you for the reminder. I so often will catch myself doing this and I just need to unfollow those who make me feel that way. I also heard someone say that if you know more about that person than you do your spouse or kids, then you should probably unfollow them as well.

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  12. Thanks for sharing girl! So good and yes so true! Comparison is the thief of joy!

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