How to find your mom village!

Monday, November 13, 2017

Encouragement from moms for moms is like the air we breathe:
We need it,
It fills us up,
it allows us to do what we do everyday.




 "It takes a village to raise a child!" This phrase is as old as time and at one point or another we have all heard it. To me, a village is being surrounded by family/friends that are there through thick and thin. So if you think about it, you've most likely been surrounded by a village at least once. 
When I moved to America from Sweden, as you can image that was one of the hardest and most terrifying things ever. I didn't know a single soul. At 19 years old, I had to step out of my comfort zone BIG time and speak a language I hardly even spoke. My BYU family became my village. They helped me in ways I didn't know was possible. Then I got married, and we had Noah a year later. I was so lucky to be surrounded by family and friends so I hardly felt alone. I had my friends but I quickly realized that I also needed mom friends. 

Noah needed kids to play with, I needed to have adult conversations besides my husband. As a first time mom, I had no idea what I was doing so what better way to learn, than from moms. To feel like you weren't the only one that had a fussy kid, or that wasn't getting enough sleep at night. What better person to ask about breastfeeding than a fellow mom. Now that I have three, it has become even MORE important to me to have mom friends. 
When we moved to Arizona, we moved to an area with people who had lived there for years. I assumed most of these moms had their own "village", and some did but a majority did not. Here is the thing, we often assume that we know what other people have/need. We psych ourselves out before we even know, thus, we miss out on major opportunities. 
Momming is hard, whether you're a new mom or have 5 kids, it is still hard. Do not be afraid to reach out, step out of your comfort zone and do not assume you know other people's stories. Finding a mom village does not have to be difficult, I think we are the ones that make it hard. We live in a digital word where we can connect with other moms through FB groups, Instagram but also neighborhood groups. These places help us connect with people we probably never would've met. I am a living example of that, a lot of my close friends that I've met since we moved started online. And I am still alive haha :)

                                                                            My Sisters Closet 

The next time you see another mom with the baby item you’re thinking about buying, or their child who looks to be the same age as your little one, go over and say hi, because I am sure that they are hoping that they have the courage to do the same…
We are all in this together <3

xo

22 comments:

  1. I just wrote out a comment, and then I accidentally deleted it. But basically, this is awesome and so important. And the struggle to find your village is real. But we're all awesome and unique and have something to offer, so we just need to speak up and reach out. (Easier said than done, for me.) Thanks, as always, for the encouragement. ♡

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    1. Ah man, I love your long and though full comments!! You are amazing Crissy, and I completely agree with you!! <3 <3

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  2. It's so hard to put yourself out there- but it's worth it every single time!

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  3. It is so important to have a group of moms that get you. It's hard when you are a new mom to put yourself out there.

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  4. I love the positivity and women empowerment coming from this post. So beautiful in action!

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  5. Such a beautiful post!! Thank you for sharing this piece of encouragement.

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  6. I love this. It is so hard I feel like in these days to find that village. Making sure you have the right people around

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  7. Oh my goodness,I love this so much and it is exactly what I needed to read right now! Thank you so much for sharing!

    Xoxo
    Whit
    www.whitjxoxo.com

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  8. I love this!!! It’s so true because this momma loves mama friends, and socializing is super important for all of us.
    Angela

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  9. I love this!! Every mom needs a mom friend. So important for both us and our children.

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  10. Love this! It's so hard to make that first step to introduce ourselves to other moms sometimes, but so worth it! I've made so many great friends this way!

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  11. I'm SO bad about making friends! I need to figure out how to step outside of my comfort zone more!

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  12. Definitely some great tips! It's so hard to meet other moms!

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  13. You're so right about all of this! We normally assume things, and that hurts us from going out on a limb and being vulnerable. Love all these tips

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  14. Great post! This is one of the hardest things for me to do, but I think it is for a lot of moms. So someone has to do it first. ;)

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  15. So true! I was a super young mom and it was often hard finding others who had children to befriend. I am definitely more confident as an older mom now and I love reaching out to moms of all ages and stages. I think we can all learn from each other and support one another.

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  16. yes! I felt so alone with my first baby since none of my other friends had reached motherhood yet. You really just have to get yourself out there (and out of my comfort zone) to talk to other mamas!

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  17. Yes! I love this and you're right, it much easier than it may seem! I couldn't survive without my mom tribe.

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  18. So much information is shared amongst mommy friends! I agree it's needed!

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  19. the struggle to find a new mom tribe in a new place is real! I need to find the courage to just say hi!

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  20. It is SO important to find your village. Mamahood is just HARD... I can't imagine it without my girls.

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