I have been thinking about this a lot, friends come and go, but REAL friends, those friends that you stick with for years, can be hard to find. It doesn't really matter if you are a stay-at-home, work-at-home or working mom, if we're not careful this motherhood thing can be real lonely. You either spend most of your day caring for children who have a lot of energy and make demands, or stuck in a cubicle for eight hours a day.
Moms needs friends, but with everything we have going on, it may be difficult to prioritize our relationship. Moving from Utah was hard, because I left all my awesome mommy friends and had to make new ones in Arizona. To some this may be easy and to others it is one of the hardest thing ever. As a first time mom, its a chaotic but rewarding time in your life. There's nothing more refreshing than spending time with someone who gets you and gets what you are experiencing every single day.
Here are 5 friends every mom needs.
1. The friend who gets you
Oh man, no matter what your day looks like, every mom needs a friend who understands exactly what she is going through. If you're a working mom, pumping every three hours to keep up with a newborn. If you're a stay-at-home mom, struggling to keep toddlers entertained during the cold winter months. Clinging to a stay-at-home mom is important too!
2. The friend who keeps it 100!
What I mean by that is every once in awhile, us moms need someone who will speak the cold, hard truth! The stuff we might not want to hear, but what we need to hear! Someone that will call you at 6 am to tell you to get out of bed and go run.
3. The single and childless friend
We have all heard off "people with no kids don't understand". While that might be true to some extent, having a single and childless friend is the best!! My best friend from Sweden just came and visited my family, because she can and has that time. She is and has been one of my best friends (16 years and counting). Some moms may find it hard to maintain those friendships after getting married and having kids. These friends are the best for spontaneous outings, when you need a night away from your responsibilities.
4. The friend that will drop everything, anytime
This friend is everything, I first thought about grandmas. They do this over and over again, but sometimes they can't be at 3 different places at once. When grandma can't make it, I hope you have that friend that will come to the rescue when things are going south. Whether you need an ice cream break, or take a child to the emergency room. Every mom needs a friend that would drop everything at short notice.
5. A friend who is always up for a heart-to-heart talk
Being a mom is hard, and it is a lot of work and some do it 24/7. We are trying to balance our parenting responsibilities while trying to care for our significant others, keep up with work and make time for ourselves. That's a lot. Sometimes we also tend to forget about ourselves, because we are so preoccupied taking care of others. When everything seems too much, or when we just need help, a friend who is always game for a heart-to-heart talk is totally invaluable. I always leave feeling so much better, and usually the other person needed to let their feelings out as well.